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Yom Kippur Thoughts

Written By: cahwyguy - Wed Sep 26, 2012 @ 4:11 pm PDT

Today is Yom Kippur, and so I thought I would share you some thoughts related to High Holiday Services… and such. Normally, our congregation has two adult services: early and late. Because trying to get the rest of the family out “early” to anything is difficult, we had tickets for the late services last year. This year, they combined the adult service into the single “late” service… which we went to for Erev Rosh Hashana. For the rest of the services, we went to the “early” service… which was the family service, for families with kids 8 and under.

Guess what. We liked it. No parking problems, you could find a seat up front, and the service was only an hour. So there are kids running around. That’s the future of Judaism!

So, as I normally talk about our sermons, you get the “kids” sermons (yes, we did hear one adult sermon on Erev RH — you can read it here):

  • On Rosh Hashanah morning, Rabbi Shawna spoke about why the rams horn was chosen to be the instrument for the shofar. This was after a number of percussive approaches (banging rocks) were dismissed, and instruments made of materials of war (metals) were ruled out.
  • On Erev Yom Kippur, Rabbi Shawna provided a story about a girl who had to pound nails into a wall whenever she lost her temper. After she learned how to control her temper, she removed a nail for every day she was calm. But the holes remained, showing that the damage from the words we use often remains even after we apologize.
  • This morning (Yom Kippur), Rabbi Lutz told a story about a man lost in the woods for Yom Kippur, who simply recited the Hebrew alphabet, on the basis that God could form them into the prayers he needs to hear.

Nice sermons, and nice services.

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Of course, while this was going on, we had Iran’s speech in the UN. I find it hard that the UN is permitting someone to speak who is denying the current and future existence of one of the UN’s member nations. I wonder how much of the tension in the Middle East would go down if there was simple recognition of Israel’s right to exist as a nation. Of course, the problem likely isn’t Israel’s existence as a nation, but it’s existence as a Jewish nation. These same nations, however, have no problem being explicitly Islamic nations. They also have no problems hating Israel’s right to exist as a Jewish nation.

This was highlighted to me when I was reading about Egypt’s reaction to President Obama’s speech yesterday:

“Egypt respects freedom of expression,” said Morsi, the candidate of the Muslim Brotherhood movement once banned by the U.S.-backed secular dictatorship of Hosni Mubarak. But “not a freedom of expression that targets a specific religion or a specific culture.”

On the surface, this might make the Internet more civilized. Let’s prohibit hate speech against religions and cultures. No hate speech against Islam. None against Christianity. None against Jews. Wait… what was that last one? I wonder if these nations that are protesting anti-Islam videos would be willing to take down the equivalent material promoting hatred against Jews? Probably not.  Especially not on sites out of government control.

Free Speech … and limitations on speech … go both ways. If you want to have free speech and the ability to spew what you want, then sometimes you hear things you don’t like. Be an adult and ignore them. Don’t let them make holes that never heal. Of course, it would be great if people learned not to spew hate speech in the first place. This is something adults learn to do. But some people remain children, and spew things without thinking of their impact on others. They say I’m sorry after the fact, but that doesn’t undo the damage.

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Children’s services. Perhaps they aren’t just for children anymore.

G’mar chatima tova.

Music: Say Darling (1958 Original Cast): Something’s Always Happening On The River

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Looking for a Few Good Ideas… and Men

Written By: cahwyguy - Sat Jun 02, 2012 @ 12:56 pm PDT

I’ve jumped back into the frey… the Temple officer frey, that is. I’ve been elected a Mens Club Vice President (without portfolio), and we’re having a meeting tomorrow to discuss ideas for the upcoming year. I’ve got a few ideas bouncing around my head, but I could use some help to finish fleshing them out.

When you think of a Mens Club, what activities come to mind? Probably your typical “manly” activities, right? Sporting events. Grilling meat. Poker. Golf. Camping. We do all of these things, but they aren’t attracting new participants to join the organization. We do have other events: mens only discussions, a mens-only seder, sukkah building, but these are much lower key.

I’m of the belief that limiting the group to stereotypical “mens” activities will only get us “stereotypical” men. That’s probably not the bulk of men in the congregation. We need to come up with activities to attract other men to join. If these activities can (a) raise funds for the congregation, and (b) have a connection to Judaism, so much the better.

I’ve been trying for the last few years to start a gaming afternoon. We’ve had low attendance, but I think that is a publicity problem. I need to publicize it to the school better… and more importantly, publicize it to the adult members of the congregation who probably think board gaming is for kids only. I was wondering this morning if we might increase attendance by adding in RPGs — in particular, some form of Jewish-themed RPG, if such a thing exists (it’s an intriguing notion when you think about it–just imagine an RPG of the Jews wandering out of Sinai, battling monsters along the way :-) ).

One idea I’m thinking of proposing is a quarterly Jewish-themed theatre outing. We get together to see a Jewish-themed show, and go out for dessert afterwards and discuss the show. We could probably make a little money by purchasing group discount tickets and selling them at full price; we might also be able to get the theatres to donate gift certificates for the Golf Tournament prize table, once a relationship has been established.  This would serve to build community and attract those not into sporting events.

I’m open to additional ideas and suggestions. The question is: how do we draw them men of the congregation into our activities, and get them working together and making friends. If we can build the community of the mens club, we’re subtlety strengthening the community of the overall congregation.

Thoughts are welcome.

Music: In These Times (Peter, Paul & Mary): Wayfaring Stranger

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Reminder: Boardgaming Afternoon @ Ahavat Shalom, Sunday 1/22

Written By: cahwyguy - Fri Jan 20, 2012 @ 5:49 pm PDT

Men's Game NightThis is a reminder that the TAS Men’s Club Men of TAS is hosting doing a family gaming (i.e., boardgaming) afternoon on Sunday, 1/22, at Ahavat Shalom in Northridge. The event is free; we’ll have some snacks available for a nominal charge (plus we’re likely to order in something if there is enough interest).

If you are into boardgaming, word games, or other non-electronic games… and you aren’t gamed out by the Games Day on Saturday, then I encourage you to come on over. I’d love to see you, and we can use people who know games to help teach games.

So remember, boardgaming at TAS on Sunday, starting around 1130am. Exit Route 118 at Reseda, go E on Rinaldi to Chimineas, make a right, and we’re on the other side of the bridge.

Music: Company (2006 Broadway Revival) (Company): Opening

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A Grand Adventure

Written By: cahwyguy - Wed Feb 23, 2011 @ 6:42 pm PDT

Tomorrow, I lose my daughter for a few days. She’s off with the rest of our synagogue’s confirmation class for the Religious Action Center’s L’Taken Social Justice Seminar (I guess this means according to Glenn Beck she’s equivalent to a radical muslim). This activity is an intensive four-day study kallah in Washington, DC that focuses on Jewish values and social justice. Reform congregations from across all the U.S. are participating in the event. The kids will get to intensely study various issues and then attempt to present their positions to their congresscritters, as well as touring the U.S. Holocaust Memorial Museum, participating in a Havdalah service at the Jefferson Memorial, and visiting Georgetown, the Smithsonian, and the White House. They are going to be busy — here’s a sample schedule.

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Being A Member of a Congregation

Written By: cahwyguy - Wed Nov 19, 2008 @ 5:33 pm PDT

One of today’s la_observed items was about Wilshire Blvd Temple–specifically how a chunk of plaster had fallen from their main sanctuary, closing that part of the building. However, the original headline was that “Wilshire Blvd Temple Is Closed”, which prompted me to go out to their website, look for news, etc.

That got me thinking. I’m a dues paying member of Temple Ahavat Shalom right now. But I still get the Temple Beth Hillel e-Newsletter, and I still regularly read the Temple Beth Torah newsletter. Even though I don’t read the newsletter regularly, I still care about the folks at Wilshire Blvd Temple, and even the folks at Or Rishon, because I care about the Rabbi there. I still, in some sense, even have a spiritual connection to Temple Akiba in Culver City as it is the spiritual successor to my first congregtion, Temple Israel of Westcheter/Temple Jeremiah, and to Kol Tikvah, the spiritual successor to Temple Emet of Woodland Hills. Although I am only paying dues to one of these, I view myself (to varying degrees) as still a member of the community of my past congregations.

So here’s my question to you: What is your relationship to your past congregations (and churchs count as well, for you Christians out there). Once you leave a congregation, is it “good bye and good riddance”, or do you still view yourself as a distant family member, still caring about the people there even though you might never see them again?

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Yom Kippur Observations

Written By: cahwyguy - Thu Oct 09, 2008 @ 6:43 pm PDT

Some observations, this Yom Kippur:

  • Our Kol Nidre Sermon was quite surprising: Rabbi Brown spoke on Proposition 8. Now, he never explicitly came out and spoke on a particular way to vote (smart man, he), he did talk about how homosexuality was one of the last acceptable forms of discrimination in society… and how that discrimination was wrong. He talked about some of the various statements being made, such as the claim that if the law stands as is, teachers will be forced to teach about homosexual marriage — that’s wrong, because all they legally need to cover is the benefits of marriage, not what valid marriages are… and those benefits are independent of how the couples are constituted. He also noted that the claims regarding churches being forced to teach about gay marriage or officiate are wrong… the separation of synagogue and state (;-)) means the government cannot dictate church teachings. Churches can discriminate, but government cannot. He also noted on how the Board of Rabbis has officially come out as being against Proposition 8. I was pleased to hear this sermon — this is what the pulpit is for: taking a moral position and educating the congregation about what religion says. Of course, it probably didn’t hurt that I support the No on 8 cause.

  • This morning’s sermon was less interesting. Rabbi Lutz spoke about the call to get involved, and not just stand idlely by. The basic point at the end was to get involved with some of the social action activities at the temple. I didn’t find it that stirring of a call.
  • We did go to one of the afternoon discussions. We had a speaker from the Anti-Defamation League, talking about hate on the internet. This is something I’m well aware of, being prominant in the Jewish internet community. It is also one thing I’m worried about with this election and the current financial crisis: as the economy is tanking, guess what is rising: antisemitism (the comments in that link just make the point). All of us who are active on the internet must do our part to combat hate speech: it is our responsibility as good internet citizens.
  • I should note that I’m very proud of my soon-to-be 14yo daughter: this is her first YK doing a fast (only water), and she has inspired me to do the same (although I have had black tea, just to warn off any migraine). She also went to the afternoon talk (although not afternoon services, which can be a bit snooze-inducing), as well as going to closing services.
  • Sitting in services, I was thinking back to the various places I’ve been in services, from the Mormon stake in Van Nuys where TBT had their services, the sanctuaries at Ahavat Shalom and Kol Tikvah, the Hillel at CSUN, Warner Youth Center and Piness Auditorium at Wilshire Boulevard Temple, and the old sanctuary at Temple Jeremiah in Westchester. No point here, just interesting to look back at all the services and how they have differed.

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Rosh Hashanah 5769: Services and Sermons

Written By: cahwyguy - Tue Sep 30, 2008 @ 12:04 pm PDT

This is my annual recap post regarding services and sermons this Rosh Hashanah 5769. L’Shanah Tovah, everyone.

Erev Rosh Hashanah Sermon: This was our first HHD service as newly returning members (we left around 1991) to Ahavat Shalom. We went to early services, which were led by Rabbi Lutz and Cantor Linskey.

Rabbi Lutz’s sermon was a take on the Akidah, the story of the binding of Isaac (Genesis 22: 1-19), which is read Rosh Hashanah morning. Rabbi Lutz’s reconcieving of the story was that of a father who can’t sleep, and dreams a command from God to go on a roadtrip with his son… to where… God will tell him when they get there. So off they go… the dad thinking about work, the teenaged son isolated with his iPod and video player. Sound familiar? When they stop at the hotel overnight, the son plays WOW on his laptop, while dad gets lost in the sports channels and checks work from email. This continues until they are in the mountains, where the realization hits them that they have been bound by their technology, and that the need to free those bonds to relate (one should note that Rabbi Lutz is a techno-geek). Interesting sermon, so I felt I had to blog about it.

Rosh Hashanah Morning: Early services (830a) were too early for the rest of the family, so I went alone. They were going to go later, but were felled by colds. Today’s services were led by Rabbi Brown and the Cantor of the Day.

Rabbi Brown’s sermon (which was initially foiled by technology) was about the overuse of the word “love” when we mean “empathy”. It was actually a political sermon (although not about any particular candidate or issue), talking about how the Torah repeatedly commands us to feel empathy with others, with those downtrodden (because we were downtrodden), and with those on high, remembering that we are all humans with feelings. There was talk of the current financial problems (I should note that at this point Rabbi Brown noted how everyone is aware of Rosh Hashanah because the house is in recess today, claiming how it shows the Jews are in charge… but that if Jews were in charge, this problem wouldn’t have happened). He talked quite a bit about how there appear to be no qualms about corporate bailouts, but there was little empathy three years ago when backruptcy laws were revised making it harder for individuals. He noted that most individuals go bankrupt not from spending beyond their means, but due to job loss or medical problems that are beyond their control. He discussed how the wealthier have become wealthier, and the number of folks in poverty have increased. He also noted that the poor give a larger percentage of their income to charity than do the ultra-rich, and that poverty and hunger could be easily stopped if those who were fortunate showed empathy for those less fortunate. I certainly found it an appropriate sermon for the times (and made me firmer in my choices regarding this election).

Sartorial Observations: The last four years we were at Temple Beth Hillel in North Hollywood, which is filled with industry and lawyerly types. We’re now at Ahavat Shalom in Northridge, which is much more of a mix of incomes. During HHD services at TBH, folks were dressed to the 9s: lots of very high heels, very short skirts, and dresses that seemed to show the flash. At TAS, this was much more a down to earth crowd, much more everyday in their style and dress. It was nice to see.

On the other hand, with respect to religious attire, I think I saw more tallit at TBH. Even for the men at TAS, it was about 40% tallit and 60% not, and only perhaps 20% of the women. At TBH (and at Temple Beth Torah before that), there were more tallit. More bothersome (and I find it interesting that it was bothersome) was that those called up to the Bimah during the Torah service didn’t all wear Tallit. That was something that was ingrained in me by Rabbi Nosan-Blank (any of you in Orangevale, say “L’shana Tovah” to her for me–she’s now at Or Rishon). Yes, I know that’s now how classic Reform was (and I was raised classic Reform), but I thought Reform was moving back towards Tallit and Kippah. It was interesting to see the variation.

Other Observations: This was the first Rosh Hashanah in a long time without any sort of financial appeal. For those of you unfamiliar with HHD services, let me explain. One place where a rabbi is sure to see most of his congregants is at HHD services. Thus, this is the place for appeals: typically there is one for Israel Bonds, and one for the Temple, usually split across the two days. We didn’t get the typical one for Israel Bonds; I wonder if we’ll have a temple appeal on Yom Kippur. We did, however, have the usual bags handed out for Mazon.

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Written By: cahwyguy - Wed Jan 23, 2008 @ 8:27 pm PDT

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